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Wednesday, October 3, 2012

It is not joke anymore!


Again one more post regarding “Man”Kind, on which I am very sure I will be hated by Gentlemen ( hello can someone tell me why is it ‘Gentle’Men and not Gentle Women, aren't we gentle, humble, caring and what not!!! Oh may be we are by default gentle and Men are to be termed so!!!).
And this post is to all those Self centered, Immature, Egoistic, Foolish, Stupid men out there who not only struggle to find a life partner by themselves and get hitched with some kind female with their parents help that too after series of rejections but then they announce to the world very egoistically as “I will be losing my Freedom!!!” (my foot)  

My dear male friends, since I am sure you are not one among such foolish men please go ahead read to see how frustrated I am!!! And dear friends tell me your frank opinion!
 A colleague of mine comes to my cubicle and says “you have to come, it is my last rite this Sunday” and I gently said sorry what do you mean, for which he sheepishly smiles and says “Yaar, it’s my marriage this Sunday” I felt like slapping him tight but I am civilized if not him. So all I could manage to tell was “wow what a sense of humor!”

And this is not the first time, every time a male friend invites me to his marriage there will be some dialogue like losing freedom, aajse restriction, No drinking, Life will be boring, etc etc!  I am totally pissed off on hearing such nonsense again and again from every other guy whom I thought is civilized and mature.  I am extremely sorry buddies I had to vent it out here, I am not generalizing but for those who talk like this trust me this is what I feel deep down inside!

Now tell me what does it mean by losing freedom?  Are you leaving your home to go stay with someone else? Will you be ever questioned by girl’s parents on your cooking knowledge? Or if you know to sing and dance! Are you questioned on your dress sense? Or on your understanding of all the festivals and rituals! Will you be questioned on your working hours?
Forget it tell me how does your life become boring? Will you have to get up early morning for cooking and follow the same routine every day from the day you are married (90% of well educated Urban men also hardly help their wife)? Do you have to make sure with all your work, goals and commitments you will have to take care of one whole family with you? Do you have to always think of in laws and your partner before yourself?  Do you have to keep thinking of fitness to keep your partner interested in you?  I know the answer is no!

Oh come on boys grow up! How long you will try to keep up the open secret that you are craving for marriage but still show off as though you are being punished? Oh please cut the crap! And for what are you doing such a big sacrifice if you find it so hard? Who the hell is going to be benefited if you are married? Believe me if one jerk like you is not married no one is worried. You can still continue to enjoy your so called freedom rather than being so foolish!

We women leave everything, our parents, our home, some will have to give up their dreams, and some will have to compromise on their dressing, career and what not to hug our life partner and to be with him for life time. Can’t the educated Male crowd be more sensible at least when we all know the truth that today finding a good partner is not easy, as women these days are very successful in every field and are capable of taking equal or more responsibilities in life?

I have hardly seen a girl saying all these regarding her marriage but why men make such statements? Come on be a Man and proudly say that you have found your soul mate. Accepted that life changes after marriage and if its true for you then its so for your life partner also! Accept the new change in life and be proud of your new life a lovely new beginning.

Whom are you trying to fool by making such statements while inviting to your marriage??? Its not joke anymore!

I have decided that next time someone invites me like this, trust me this blog will be his wedding gift!

P.S: First of all sorry dear Blogger friends if I have spoilt your mood by such a post and secondly I am very thankful to you for the tags and awards you have showered on me. I promise to take those up in my next post, Love you all and thanks for encouraging me J

38 comments:

Rahul_Honeywell said...

Kya Baat Kya Baat Kya Baat....200% agree......

Vyshali said...

Awesome Ramya!!!!!
Hard core Facts have been showcased nicely.....I agree to all your words..... :):)

Nandini R J said...

Its the fact you have written Ramya. Good one... Hope Gentlemen will understand the truth after reading this... :)

Jenny said...

Ramya I am back after attaching my head to my body :-) I was nodding that bad!!!!!

Really men and thier silly little sentences. EGOO nad only EGO are thier best friends. They can never ever admit that they are actually HAPPY to be married. Likehell I like this post. and really take my feet too to stamp loudly when people utter such STUPID losing freedomw sentences! Bang on Post! You go girl!

Usha said...

Nice Ramya.... Must read for so called gentlemen

Dheeraj said...

Indeed a true sceen seen these days.. but yes the world is equally full of suprises life throws at us.

for such foosl .. go on laugh at them and move on :)

Life is too short to spend any seconds on such ppl

Nilanjana Bose said...

Well said!! enough already of the silly jokes...really like the idea of gifting this post to certain kinds of un-gentlemen...maybe I could also borrow it sometime? :)

Ramya said...

@Rahul: Wow happy to see that you are agreeing. :D I will wait to see how you invite me to your marriage ;)

@Vyshali: hahaha thanks ri :D

@Nandini: Welcome to chittrana, oh yes please feel free to fwd this to ;) all the "Gentlemen" who should be reading this lol

Ramya said...

@Jennny: Jen :D we are together now lol, but whatever it is even after you explaining to them no use :D they continue to be same, they feel it is a style statement to make such jokes! Interestingly I dont find such comments or jokes in our parents's generation. I feel its western influence what do you think?

Ramya said...

@Usha: :) feel free to fwd it to all those so called Gentlemen ;)
Thanks dear for dropping in

@Dheeraj: yes ;) I dont want to spend time everytime this happens ;) and so I have blogged ;) so next time such people will get this link and I will be in some sort of satisfaction ;)

Ramya said...

@Nilanjana Bose: Hey NB Thanks!!! oh yes :D pls go ahead gift it :D its all yours :D

Rahul Bhatia said...

Ramya now you know why the men like to be addressed as ' Gentle men' unlike ladies:) Ladies are not only gentle but more sensible when it comes to matters of marriage and relationship where as mama's boys need time to grow:)

Bikramjit said...

Well all i will say is I hope good sense prevails sooner than later ..

I dont know why people do this , I just hope I am not one of those men who make such statements and that people who know me are proud to know me :)

I have a similar true story which is happening right now in my own home.. it is so disgusting what they portray and what they turn out to be ..

Bikram's

Prashanth said...

Think, this is one of those rarest occasion when I got to read the real 'women' in you. Most of the times your thoughts are positive (din't mean this post was negative though), with full of energy and fun!!

I personally feel, marriage is rather gaining freedom for men, it would be too much to list out what wife do for hubby and pretty much the same what hubby does to wife (if at all he does!). But, true is the fact that you said couple should 'change' a lot after marraige!

Good one, Ramya :o)

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Ranjana said...

Well said sis.. hope all men are not this dumb, atleast after reading this post.. lolz.. ;)

Ramya said...

@Rahul sir! yeah so true about some of those mama's boys !!!

@Bikram: hey thats really nice to know about you a wonderful human being even I am proud to have known you! But yes not all are like you, trust me you meet such people every now and then and its now become fancy to be cracking such jokes about marriage :D

Ramya said...

@Prashant: :) This is again one other shade of me :D being woman ;) for a change. I know now you know how frustrated I am!!!

True Prashanth marriage is such a beautiful beginning of new life a new friendship and ofcourse there are compromises done at both the ends so be proud to show out your happiness is all I demand! :D

Thanks a lot Prashant, Happy to know many of my blog friends like you are accepting that its not joke any more!!! :D

Ramya said...

@Ranju :D lol!!!! :D

Found In Folsom said...

hahahaa...hey Ms Ramya..what's up? bahut gharam gharam lag rahi ho? chill...cool down girl. I know what you are saying..I don't want to say much rather than agree to what you said already..:)

KParthasarathi said...

You have a knack of clothing some truth in hilarious words.But I don't think most men mean it about losing freedom in the sense you have portrayed but they jocularly put that their freedom of roving eyes and rudderless life would be bartered for love and life with some chosen woman in their lives.

Ramya said...

@FIF: ;) Harsh facts and trust me :D I am not angry :) I will never be! lol

@KP: :D I told it in my post this is not generalized! :D

Binu Thomas said...

Ramya, now that's an 'shooting from the hip' type of post! And you are right. It's not a joke anymore. I tell you what - Men, on their part, thinks all this is funny. And people will enjoy all this post marriage. And it doesn't end there. Tables turn after marriage too. You become the protagonist in all jokes.. Uncles and aunties keep lecturing you about how everything that happens, will continue to happen for a long time and so on.

I think, we on our part, can do 2 things. 1. Ignorance - after all, it's bliss. And two, Sarcasm - that's the way I handle things ;-) Politely pass the joke back on them and they won't realize it :D

Ramya said...

@Binu: Wow That was awesome of you to realize the depth of this post :D

Yes I like the second option u have given Sarcasm :) I love to be sarcastic rather than just ignoring :) cant take it anymore :D jokes are good to certain limit :D but not when it cross the line isnt it :D

Thanks :D Binu for being sensible and understanding :D

Renu said...

I think its their sense of humour only..nothing more.because most of the jokes are on wife only...
and today not many girls are sacrificing anything..they dont think of anyone else before themselves, may be their own parents but nevr inlaws or hubby..

Ramya said...

@Renu: oh yes we cant generalize both the sides :) and I so bored with this sense of humor.

There are still sacrifices done by both the sides. :D this is just a petition for stopping such jokes which does not apply anymore when there is sacrifice from both the parties

Life is a beautiful journey of love and compromise ;) I dont want to start it with such a joke!
:D Its just my point of view! :D
Thanks a lot for your comment. :D

Tarun Shetty said...

Abba!!! Istella nanu yochane made ill!!!!

Sonia said...

Awesome this one is..

Ramya said...

@Tara: Hmmm many would not have :D atleast now you know


@Sonia: Thanks dear welcome to Chittrana

Karthick said...

Reading this post was like running 100m under 10 secs ,you blew my ears. :)

Ramya said...

@Karthick: LOL is it :) oops did I hurt you :D lol :D

gopinath said...

Wonderful post. Marriage is a new begining in life which has lot of sacrifices to make from either side. I think all those who say as in ur post are not really meaning what they say but are worried about what will happen after marriage....ha ha. But i would like to write about girls view also....

Raj said...

I guess some guys never grow up. :P I have seen many such cartoons and I can totally understand your frustration. These are the guys who will secretly (or sometimes even openly) wish and long for a girl to speak to them in college, may be muster enough courage to say a couple of words to a girl when they finally start working and then proudly flaunt to their male friends that they managed to speak to a girl (there would be celebrations as well). And after several unsuccessful attempts to woo a girl, they would be waiting anxiously for their parents to find a girl and then they complain that they are going to lose their freedom. Hypocrisy has a new name I guess. Not all guys are like that though and there are many very decent guys as well.

But yeah.. you have written this with a lot of anger as well a lot of passion. It is so true that women give up so much when compared to any man. Every man is always indebted to 2 women in his life who shape his life and make it complete. That is the truth whether they accept it or not, deep down everyone knows that. But how I wish men say it more often.

Ramya said...

@Raj: What other way are the women being acknowledge for their sacrifices? As u said its only a word of pride from their husband\father\brother\Son which makes their efforts worth while.
I wish they stop such silly jokes and embrace them with pride.

I understand things have changed these days in marriage, not everyone are the way they were and also I take it sportively when such jokes are made but over the few days I have seen noticing that even the men who are craving and shamelessly have also told us about their want to get married say such jokes when they get married !!!! SO THIS POST :D

karthick said...

Every issue has two sides.just praising one side alone is not a good thought.not all men are gentle so all women.

karthick said...

Every issue has two sides.just praising one side alone is not a good thought.not all men are gentle so all women.

Ramya said...

@Karthick: thanks a lot for your comment buddy :D yes thats exactly what I have mentioned this is only for those people who pass baseless comment :D
I truly respect the differences and know that non of us are perfect :D