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Friday, August 24, 2012

Love Yeaaaaaaaaaaah Arranged

(This post is done for Love Marriage Ya Arrange Marriage contest in IndiBlogger... :) )


I was shivering to lend my hand to receive the prasad from appa as I knew this was a prelude for a discussion on some prospective groom someone had suggested to him. This time I decided to make my stand clear. As he broached the subject on the expected lines, I told him very clearly and firmly that I am not ok with arranged marriage. There I was muttering the least expected words from a girl of an orthodox family. Appa became very furious at my audacity. He would have taken a less serious view of the matter had I told him that I am not ready for marriage yet. A look at my defiant face resulted in an unmistakable and strict warning from him of a peremptory NO to love marriage. This incident shook him a little and gave a respite before he started looking for a potential match for me. He had made it clear that arranged marriage was non negotiable with little chance for me to choose my partner.
Months passed by and I had rejected many proposals even by looking at the photographs or on some lame excuses. Appa and even my understanding amma were exasperated in my rejections of what seemed good matches. He made it clear that the next one if he and mom were satisfied, he would brush aside my excuses and proceed further. I was still not ok with arranged marriages where one agrees to marry a stranger after just one or two meetings for fleeting moments.
It was one evening after I returned from office my appa called me unusually softly with lot of warmth in his voice. He mentioned about one proposal that my very fond uncle had suggested. As he was talking I could discern a determination in his voice that he would brook no objection this time. Appa had not forced me all along and now that the proposal was from my dear uncle himself, he felt he had adequate reason to compel me!
I found to my surprise on the table before him a horoscope and a photo of a young man. To be frank I did not evince any interest in the photo and indicated my usual disinterest. Appa diplomatically told me its my dear uncle who had sent this proposal and that the young man seemed well qualified, in a good job and with pleasing looks. He added that it would be foolish to reject this god sent opportunity.. I could sense by seeing my amma’s eyes that she was pleading with me to accept. I walked to my room, messaged my uncle for a confirmation that it was really he who had sent it. When he replied in the affirmative, I had no choice but to look at my toes indicating my willingness to proceed further.
The day of meeting this guy was fixed for next day itself. I dressed in simple Saree and was waiting in my room when my parents called me to serve coffee and snacks, a ploy for the groom’s party to see me in different angles. Except for a fleeting glance, I didn’t see the guy who was center of attraction to my family. As I walked back to kitchen I could hear his approval. Even without ascertaining my view my appa walked in to tell to take a walk with the young man in the garden as he wished to talk with me alone.
Anyways the decision seemed to have been made by my parents and my acceptance taken for granted. We walked together to the garden in the rear till we were away from everybody’s vision. When we were certain that nobody were around us, we hugged each other in happiness that our plan worked successfully, thanks to my uncle’s help.
it was few months back, I had met him online in a contest on www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange, our common interest had turned to friendship and soon we were in deep love. To overcome the stiff resistance to a love marriage, we persuaded my kind uncle to broker an arranged marriage keeping our love a total secret. The liberal and kind man readily agreed and brought matters to this denouement.
 As we returned back to our home and announced that we both were happy, the entire family was excited with the announcement. I could see the pride in my father’s face in successfully getting a good match thro the ‘arranged’ route instead of the risky ‘love’ route... As my dear uncle came near us and whispered with a mischievous grin “Love Yeaaaaaaaaaaah Arranged” we struggled to hold back a loud laugh.

38 comments:

Jenny said...

Excellent entry Ramya! Please tell me that this is YOUR STORY! It was totally gripping, and you won;t belive it, I was on a client call, but couldn't stop reading this.

And if this is a real story, my my how clevere of you guys. Love marriage jo arrange kanre hain :-P and Thansk to your sweet uncle who helped you here. I reallly hope you win this contest dear :-) Good Luck!

Uma said...

awesome! I loved the story..:-)
all the best for the contest!

Nilanjana Bose said...

Best of luck! But a sure winner of hearts and minds anyways :)

gopinath said...

Lovely post. Loved it. All the best for the contest. I thought the theme of the arranged or love marriages was different. I think i m wrong.

Bikramjit said...

WOW, Now that brought a smile to my face .. so did you tell your Appa later on then :) how and what happened ..


best of luck for the contest and yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to
Love yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan Arranged :)

Bikram's

Found In Folsom said...

How sweet...you are one naught talented girl....you owe your uncle girl. :) good luck to the contest...

angel said...

haha loved the story! something similar actually happened to a friend of mine! all the best for the contest.

gunjan kumar said...

all the best for the contest!

Sonia said...

Aww aww aww Awesome one :) Loved it:)

Nivedita Chirantan said...

beautifully written... lovely story.. best of luck for the contest :)

Kinara :) said...

A very sweet one indeed!:D
Just as jenny wished, I truly hope this is your story!:)
All the best..
:)

Rahul Bhatia said...

Ramya, if this was the truth behind your marriage, kudos to you! If not still a bigger kudos for such imaginative writing.A lovely post which deserves to win:)

santhu said...

It is like Upendra movie:)
expect the unexpected in every turn!!
good one.

Ramya said...

@ALL: SORRY for delayed response :D I was far away in another world heaven called Emerald vacationing!!! Now Back will read all the comments and reply to you...

Thanks a lot!!! love you all...

Ramya said...

@Jen: Jennnnnn hahahha :D its not exactly my story but in bits and pieces yes :D it is and :) I am not very keen on winning one competition ;) when I have won a wonderful friend like you!!!

Ramya said...

@Uma and Nilanjana Bose: Thanks a lot dear friends for dropping and encouraging me so much :D

@Gopi: Yeah actually the contest is to write views about love an arranged marriage. But :P who cares ;) I just wrote a story :) rules are meant to be broken heheheh!!! Thanks for your encouragement Gopi!

Ramya said...

@Bikramjit: Bikram ;) my appa is very clever ;) he will catch me right then and there so cant play so much but yes we did fool him a bit ;)

FIF: Hehhehe thanks a lot dear, yes my uncle always remains my dearest!

Ramya said...

@Angel, Gunjan Kumar and Sonia...
WELCOME to Chittrana...
Thanks a lot for your encouragement :D keep coming back :D

@Niveditha: Nivi ;) hahaha thanks kano

Ramya said...

@Kinara: heyyyy welcome to CHITTRANA :D
Thanks a lot for your compliments :D hahaha yes its my story in bits and pieces

Ramya said...

@Rahul sir: hahhaa thanks Sir :D, its mix of both :D so thankssssssss a lot ;)

@Santhu: hahaha mathe sumne kathe helidre yen chanda :D

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šēţħũ said...

Nice one..!!! Very Clever..!!! All the best for the contest :-)

Ramya said...

@Sethu: Thanks buddy :D

Kappu said...

OH good Lord! Ramya, you are SUCH a writer, tell me smth pssst this is real or what???

Raj said...

Wow Ramya. That was a lovely story. You managed to give a cute little twist to what seemed like a sweet story which turned romantic in the end. Loved the narration and you gave very nice touches to it. And this is a very nice take to the debate of Love or Arranged marriages. I guess both have its pros and cons, but as long as there is love in the marriage, it would turn out to be a great one.

So this story is based on your story. :) How exciting! And what lovely and cute things you guys have done. Wonderful! :)

Ramya said...

@Raj: Baba Raj ki :D Jaiiiiiiiiiiiiii
:D ROFL how seriously you followed guruji's words and have posted comment hahahah :D

Raj cant stop lol :D

Ashwini C N said...

What an interesting twist. Loved it :-) Good Luck with the contest!

Ramya said...

@Ashwini: LOL :D this doesnt meet any rules and regulation of Contest :D so just did a post on those lines ;)
thanks a lot :D

Karunakar said...

Beautiful.... no doubt you have won the contest.

vinay said...

Your Writing skills are as exciting as your story of marriage..Good Work..Am really impressed...

geetu said...

Very Nice Ramya...excellent writer you are!!

Bhavya said...

Beautiful love story Ramya... Congratz.... If I may ask which bit is ur srory???? :-P

Bhavya said...

Beautiful love story Ramya... Congratz.... If I may ask which bit is ur srory???? :-P

Manjunath B.E said...

Hmm nice au...

It's Me said...

Too good :) lol :)

Hembree said...

What an interesting twist. Loved it :-) Good Luck with the contest!